Tuesday, February 14, 2012

My Own Romance Story - What's An Ocean Between Us

Every little girl holds that secret desire in their heart - that she has a soul mate, the one man in all the world especially for her. I would giggle to myself growing up, wondering what he would be like - tall, handsome, funny. The possibilities were endless but deep down I knew whoever he was, he'd be perfect. Then I grew up and faced the horrors associated with teen boys. Aren't they just cruel beasts? In all fairness, I did crush on the most popular, the most good looking and my young hormones didn't listen to any voice of reason  telling me that maybe I'd set my sights too high. So while I watched those around me fall about in giddy swoons over young love, I stoically pushed on, grasping tightly to my belief in soul mates. It was tough nurturing and sheltering that young hope through those years as I endured disappointment and heartache over and over. I think there were a few moments where I faltered and wanted to say to heck with love but I'm a romantic at heart so that little flame wasn't so easily put out...

I finally escaped high school and came to the conclusion that the reason why my young heart wasn't fulfilled was because what could young boys possibly have when compared to the *sigh* sexiness of men. I'll admit now that towards the end of my teens I had a few heated moments with the "older guy" so as I moved out of my teens and into my 20's, I entered into what I like to call my "Frog Kissing" phase. I did alot of kissing, hoping against hope that one of them would be my prince charming - my soul mate - the perfect guy for me.

I'm surprised all I walked away with was chapped lips and not a truck load of warts because although there was some HOT HOT moments, I could safely rename those years my "BLECH" phase because although the spark of lust was there... that was it. No connection, no commitment, no knee weakening "OMGSH he's the one" feeling. Oh I definitely gave it my best try but you can't convince the heart to feel something that isn't there. So loads of lust .. no love. That hope I'd been sheltering was slowly dying and I wondered whether my little girl dream was wrong. Instead of seeing a home filled with children and the loving gaze of a devoted husband, I started seeing me sitting in a house, alone but for a million cats.

Someone then gave me the advice "Belinda - quit looking. Prepare yourself to be Mrs Perfect so when the stars align, he'll find you." So that's what I did. No more kissing frogs, no more searching. I closed up shop and threw myself into other things and that's probably one of the best pieces of advice I've ever had. You guys know me. I'm addicted to romance and one of my favorite themes in a book is when two people conquer time and space to find each other. Nothing is too difficult for love, right? Your soul mate's in 1432AD? That's ok, you'll find a way to hook up. Now no scoffing... it can really happen! Ok maybe not crossing time like that BUT I really do believe that love - true love- is not restricted by geography and here's why...

It was about August 1999 and a friend of mine had introduced me to a chatroom they liked to visit and they shared they'd met alot of cool friends that way. You can never have too many friends, right? So I went online and began chatting and had a BLAST. I met some wonderful people who held similar interests and before I knew it,  life was in full swing. I was single and loving it and that's when Love/Fate/Cupid stepped in. I was standing in my kitchen back home when this thought struck me HARD and I mean HARD. I was meant to go to the US (for those who don't know I'm Australian) and despite the fact I had NO money, I immediately started making phone calls. I soon had a place to stay when I came but still no money equalled no plane ticket. It wasn't a matter of waiting and saving either. I HAD to go to the US and I HAD to go ASAP. Here's the first miracle - I told my Dad and he lent me the money. Ever made an international flight? That's ALOT of money but without hesitation he handed it over. I got my ticket and everything was set. Here's where miracle number two happened.

I must have had my ticket for a few days and I was busy talking with people in the chatroom when I get an instant message. Someone called HappySnub wanted to chat and say hello. We talked back and forward and mock all you want, there was a SPARK. We had a lot in common and the flirting was fun so when I said I was coming to the US, we arranged to meet up. LOL I swear I just heard you all gasp! I know the dangers of meeting people online but seriously, there was something there, something pulling me so without really thinking, we made plans for him to come meet me at LA airport when I arrived. The sweetheart he was, he arranged to bring his parents so it would help take the fear out of it.

I remember going through customs, so incredibly nervous because things had gotten pretty serious between me and Mark (HappySnub). He was talking about a future, I had the weak kneed butterflies and that hope I'd carried my whole life was roaring inside me. Just before I went out, I went into the restroom and looked in the mirror. Would he like me? Am I setting myself up for yet another disappointment? Was I wrong in getting my romantic hopes up? I cringed a little because 20+ hours on a small confined plane and my eyes were bloodshot and bugged and I looked like death. But when I walked out, one look at Mark's face and it CLICKED. Seriously, there was this massive shift and an almighty CLICK. This was him. This was my destined lover. This was the man I was meant to spent forever with.He took me to the most romantic place to eat while I waited for a connecting flight (I was visiting someone first and then coming to see him at the end). While standing in the line at McDonalds (LOL) I looked at him and we had our first kiss. OH MY GOSH. I felt it EVERYWHERE and we still get teased about it because for the next few hours we couldn't keep our hands of each other. We kissed everywhere and when it was time to get on my plane, I knew that this meeting spelt HUGE change in my future. Two month later on Valentine's Day, I walked down the aisle and said "I do" to the man of my dreams, the man I'd waited all my life for and trust me when I say - he was not only worth it but he is PERFECT for me.

Today marks our 12th year wedding anniversary and I love him more now than I ever thought possible. Mark is incredible. I don't know what I did to deserve such a man because he is so incredibly gentle, loving, devoted, patient, forgiving, funny and yep, he ROCKS MY WORLD! Just looking over those words, I realize they come no where close to describing just what he means to me and how much he has blessed my life. I can't imagine a single second without him and I love knowing I can reach out anytime and find him there. Sometimes I have to pinch myself when I look at him because I feel so amazed he's stood by me all these years. We've gone through Hell the past few years and where it breaks other marriages, if anything it has strengthened and fortified ours.

I believe in soul mates. I believe that there is someone out there for everyone and that the way will open for two people to find each other. I might not have crossed time but I crossed a REALLY big ocean and have never regretted the decision. Mark baby, I love you. You own my heart and thank you so much for being so tender and gentle with it. Happy anniversary and Valentine's Day!

** Note: This post was tweaked a little because I also shared it this time last year. The words are still true and I know alot haven't heard about how I met my hubby! **

19 comments:

Christie (The Fiction Enthusiast) said...

What a sweet story! Thanks for sharing & Happy Valentine’s Day!

Book ♥ Soulmates said...

What a beautiful story!! Finding true love isn't easy so it makes it all the more precious when it does happen. I've been with my husband for 11 years (almost 7 married) and last night, during our Valentine's dinner, I told him how I couldn't see myself with anyone else in the world.

I really believe that there is someone out there for everyone - someone who will respect you, care for you, accept you, and LOVE you like no other! I'm glad to say that we're the lucky ones :D

Wishing you a WONDERFUL Valentine's Day with your love!
♥Isalys

Melissa said...

Oh my gosh...such a beautiful story, Belinda! I'm so happy you found HIM :)

Happy V-Day! :)

Ladybug07999 said...

Awesome story!! Thanks for sharing! Can I just share a little of mine . . . I only say that because it has the internet *gasp* connection as well.

Feb 1999 I was finally feeling good about myself. I started to go out with my friend to clubs and such. I met this guy, and I seriously thought he was the one. We went out every weekend, sometimes during the week, and he even met my family. He was training at a local base from Ohio and would have to go back, but promised it would only be for a little while, we would work this out. Shortly before I met him I had joined the yahoo online dating thing. Over the time of dating him, some guys had messaged me but I told them all I was seeing someone and that was that. He left in April 1999. I never heard from again. One of the guys I had talked to through the messenger had actually became a friend and was a shoulder to cry on after this. After all, he too was going through a break up. He remained good friends with his ex girlfriend, to the point he asked her to pick something up for me from Bath and Body Works while she was in town. See . . I had been in the hospital for fluids and he wanted to give me a pick me up gift. He came to the house, picked me and my daughter up. He gave me my gift and then took care of my daughter while I got some much needed rest. The next day he took me home and continued to chat off and on for a while. This second guy I hadn't talked to much messaged me one day when I was off work. We talked forever!!! (This was a Thursday). Friday he drove 2 hrs to meet me in person. Drove 2 hrs home to go back to work. Then drove back to spend the weekend with me. That weekend we planned our wedding, the following Monday we got a marriage license . . and Thursday July 15, 1999 we were married! NOW . . Here is the BESTEST part ever!!! After moving in with him and unpacking. He comes home from work one day, after using the bathroom he asked me. "Where did you get that basket on the back of the toilet?" I said, "Allen got it for me. Why?" He sat down on the bed and said,"You aren't going to believe this." Then he tells me this story: He knew who Allen was, because he had dated Allen's ex Monica. Allen had asked Monica to pick up something in town one day, for a sick friend. She couldn't make up her mind, so HE ended up picking out a basket of goodies for the friend.

Yes we are still married.
Yes we still have the basket.

Not many people can say their husband picked something out for them, before he even knew who she was. :D

BLHmistress said...

Aw congrats and many more years of blessed happiness! I do believe in Soulmates, I and thought that was with my ex hubby but apparently it wasn't- no need for sadness, I am happy and content right now - not looking at least until my son is older.

Happy Valentine's Day !

Jessica (Firefly Book Loft) said...

This is so super sweet. I love stories like this :)
Happy Anniversary and Valentine's Day :D

Kate said...

What a beautiful love story! Happy Anniversary! :)

AngelGoneMad said...

Aww Bel...that is such a brilliant and romantic story!! I wish I had such a romantic story to tell about me and my other half!!!

Rie Conley said...

Aww... Happy Anniversary!

Dana Alma said...

Hey Belinda,
Loved your post! So romantic and beautiful. It resonated a bit with my love story. Thanxs for sharing.
See ya,
Dana

jackie b central texas said...

Congratulations on finding your Prince Charming Belinda, lovely to know that Internet relationships do have happy endings. Take hope in the fact that one of my sweeties nephews did the same thing and he and his wife have been together now for going on 7 years and an older friend of ours met his wife online and they have now celebrated 2 years.. (They were 55 and 60 when they got married, his first marriage and her 2nd...)

Happy Valentines Day to you and Mark, glad coming to US worked out so well for you!

April said...

Aw, that was beautiful! I hope you both have a lovely Valentine's Day!

LMW said...

Great post! I love it! glad we got to spend the weekend with you! :D

kayspringsteen said...

I believe in soulmates and I believe in happily ever after. You have a great story. Thanks for sharing!

Marg said...

What a fantastic story you have to share with each other and your family. And I am so glad that you acknowledge how lucky you are because it most certainly doesn't happen for everyone!

LMWeatherford said...

Happy Valentine's/Anniversary day my pretty girl! I love you so much, and I'm so glad you found Mark so you could be a part of my life too! I wish you both many, many more years of happiness! (((HUGS))) xxxKISSESxxx

jackie b central texas said...

B no matter how many times you share this story it brings a smile to my lips, tears to my hands and joy that you two are still happy all these many years later. Wait till you have passed the 30 year mark like my sweetie and I, you will feel even more happiness over the next 18! :-)

droopy said...

Absolutely love yyour story!!! See you proved everyone has a soul mate!! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY & HAPPY VALENTINE'S. DAY!

Louisa Bacio said...

Such a wonderful story! Thank you for sharing it. Glad all that frog-kissing worked out!

And Happy Anniversary!