Thursday, May 27, 2010
Soulmates Or Just Wishful Thinking?
So I'm wondering. I'm half way through a new book and the two main characters have started throwing around the idea that they're soulmates and my first thought is "Whoa, in what universe do you think that the "relationship" you have makes you soul mates?" Maybe I'm a little misguided, maybe a little too romantic at heart but doesn't being someone's soulmate suggest that there is some deep connection? Some kind of pull towards each other that seems bigger than themselves? To me, before I can accept that a couple could be soulmates, I have to see some kind of proof, some kind of indication that they are destined to be together forever and that their love is truly eternal. Being soul mates means passion, that overwhelming feeling in your soul that you have found the person you can't live without. It's that tingling feeling, that knowing that comes from looking into the eyes of the one you love and seeing the other part of your soul. Being some one's soul mate is powerful, it's dynamic, it's all encompassing and at the same time with all that intensity comes that quiet whisper, that silent affirmation that you are indeed meant to be together. It moves you. It inspires you. It humbles you. It completes you. You are so in tune with each other that you can no longer tell where one of you begins and the other finishes. It is soul shaking. It is magical. So why should I believe the author of this book that her characters are soul mates when they don't spend alot of time with each other, there seems to be lukewarm chemistry and that it seemed to just "pop" into the guy's head during one of their rare kisses (which I'm afraid to say are pretty yawn worthy - I'm a total kiss fanatic. I have standards) With a declaration that you "feel" (because honestly when is love logical?) the person you "love" is your soulmate (and yes you at least should acknowledge it and even tell the other person), it should never be followed with "yes I think we are". How anti climatic is it - to hear the person you love make such a life altering statement and use the words "I think". Where once my heart would be racing with excitement, I'm reading a book where all I want to do is blow raspberries and tell the characters just how very sorry I am for them. I don't know. It just seems like it makes a mockery of the whole idea and belief of soulmates. Ultimately though I feel sad for the author. It makes me wonder whether they truly don't know what it means to find and be a soul mate or whether it's just poorly written. So now, for the second time this week I'm asking myself - do I really want to finish this book in the hopes that a miracle happens or do I put it together with my other reservations and call it a day. How do you contiue reading when you just don't believe the characters? Anyone have any advice?